The Guilty Mom that Always travels
Can we talk about mom & wife guilt, because I’ve come to realize, it is definitely a thing!
"if moms could have it all would we still have mom guilt"
navigating a business, blog & baby
we haven't been home
For maybe a month…
It’s been a while since I’ve had the chance to sit down and pour my soul into you. Alina is growing rapidly, and as excited as I am that she’s gaining that little bit of independence, a natural mourning process is also taking place as I watch her no longer be a baby.
If you follow me on my social (like Facebook or Instagram), you’ve probably seen how much we’ve been traveling. So far, in two months alone, we’ve travelled to 5 different states and two international trips- tired much-yes.
It hasn’t been easy, but we’ve made incredible memories on the way. Flying during these scary times has been WILD, and with my OCD, my anxiety has been on 100, thankfully before Alina turned one, just as COVID began to settle, we were back to our frequent flyers schedule, and I was able to truly learn how to keep Alina and our family safe during these times.
dear moms, if you see me in an airport
Know that i have santizer & more 2 keep us & our little ones safe #hollaatme
As you can probably tell from the title, one of the hardest things I’ve combatted during this time of traveling has been mom guilt. It has been so hard to balance work and family and figure out how to do it with excellence and without anyone getting sick.
I’m not your trial-and-error type; I love a good guide to get me through the “How-to’s”, but sadly Motherhood doesn’t come with a guide. Finding a rhythm takes consistent trial and error, but guilty feet don’t have any rhythm because, GIRL!
I consistently can’t help but feel guilty. As a family, we’ve made so many incredible memories, and Alina’s scrapbook will be filled with adventures, but I am so tired, and sometimes, so is she. Although my husband and I travel for work almost one week out of every month (for influencer opportunities and my hubby’s gigs), it’s easy to feel guilty on one end or the other, especially as a wife.
Sometimes, I am unsure if I need to stay home and be with Alina or be on the road with my husband. On the days I choose to be home, I run a business while also caring for Alina. My full attention never feels ultimately on her because of how much I’m trying to get done.
When the fog of mom guilt begins to cloud my brain, I’ve fallen into practicing to go to three short but practical steps.
- I remember that God knew what he was doing when he gave me Alina. He understood the assignment on my life- because he placed it there and knew I would be capable of nurturing and growing my assignment while still being a good mom and wife.
- They are gaining memories, and not all memories will or has to include me. When the time comes, and I’m forced to travel without Alina and in the times that I sacrifice not traveling with Chris, I remember that not every memory needs to have me in it.
- I’m doing my best. Although I question what I could be doing better and how I could be a better mom, wife, or blogger, I remind myself that better doesn’t have to be right now, and I’m doing my best.
Long story short. Mom and Wife guilt is a pain in the bum. While I love my life and truly stand by what I said on my Instagram and remembering these three things to help me be okay, I am still trying to learn balance and feel mom and wife guilt a lot less.
Traveling and being a successful businesswoman, blogger and mom can feel like a lot! I’m now in a space where I am not opposed to hiring an assistant to assist me in handling all things, but in the midst of that, I know that is only half of the solution; the other half is learning to change my mindset to go back to gratitude.
But until that total reset happens, feel free to drop me a comment mom and share your ways of silencing mommy or wifey guilt.
Your tips, love, and thoughts are always welcome below!♥
