That Time I Got Called a Vain Monster
A somewhat true- but mostly exaggerated story of my baby getting her ears pierced...
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A Day in the Life of A Shop-a-holic
Since Alína was born I have had a problem with being oddly compulsive with my trips to the mall. On Saturday, October 2, a compulsive trip led to Alína’s ears being pierced.
This blog post will give you an exaggerated account of the day I was called a vain monster, for piercing my littles ones’ ears and how her turning 6 months has me shook!
SASSY
I’m 6 months deep in this thingMy sassy, fun, princess is 6 months old and I can hardly stand it. Anyway, let’s talk the shallow stuff and then getting into the deets on the time I was called a vain monster. Milestone- I got super freaked this month, (similar to every other month) when I realized that Alina wasn’t reaching all of her milestones…
ALíNA
I know I’m not the only new mom that lives off of milestone checks. It really is stress that rides my back every day but even in knowing that, I know I won’t change! I just love a good milestone check and having the satisfaction of knowing I’m doing something right.
The 6th-month mark is an important milestone for all babies. It’s usually when they’re sitting up, babbling, splashing in baths and being the most active we have seen. Well for Alína most of that is her story…
RELAX
I know I’m not the only new mom that lives off of milestone checks. It really is stress that rides my back every day but even in knowing that, I know I won’t change! I just love a good milestone check and having the satisfaction of knowing I’m doing something right.
The 6th-month mark is an important milestone for all babies. It’s usually when they’re sitting up, babbling, splashing in baths and being the most active we have seen. Well for Alína most of that is her story…
EDGE
Alína was hitting all her milestones, but she wasn’t babbling… Most babies are babbling by 5 months but Alína mainly giggles and smiles, and you may get the cooing here and there but that’s it.
I automatically went into panic mode and still currently feel a little on edge.
DONT GOOGLE URSELF CRAZY
Mile stones are just guidelines-#repeateveryday
Crap hit the fan!
Teaching 4 Goals & Not 4 Fun?
Alína was hitting all her milestones, but she wasn't babbling... Most babies are babbling by 5 months but Alína mainly giggles and smiles, and you may get the cooing here and there but that's it. I automatically went into panic mode and still currently feel a little on edge.
AM I JUSTIFIED?
I was told to wait until the 7-9 month mark before I should worry, but sis, I have been worried, and I may have gone the extra, extra mile, with buying a bunch of stuff to help get Alína on track.
Our pediatricians thoughts
More on me being a vain monster...
This weekend, Chris and I made a big decision for Alína and we got her ears pierced during one of my compulsive trips to the mall. We previously discussed doing it, but we were both so nervous of the idea of putting her through any unnecessary pain, especially with all that she’s already been through. We went to good ol’ faithful Claires Accessories and had a conversation with the manager about our fears and concerns of causing Alína any harm.
Thankfully she helped put my mind at ease but not as at ease as I thought.
Beauty
After piercing her ears and hearing her cry. I went from feeling excited and nervous to straight regret. All the moms that were walking in Claires were staring and someone asked if she was old enough for us to pierce her ears.”She so itty bitty, is she even old enough to do this?” I kindly looked at that lady with the fakest half-smile and said “Of course! She’s six months and is just shaken up from the shock of piercing”.
SIS!
“Aw poor baby. I didn’t pierce my Milly’s ears until she was 5 years old. But, it was a different time then. I would feel so bad and like a vain monster to put my baby through someone stabbing them in the ears, especially that young.”
So I respectfully replied, ” lady, if you don’t get the hell out my face…respectfully!”
YALL! As much as I wanted to uppercut this old lady, and tell her that we’re not stabbing her in the ear, we’re stabbing her in the earlobe- big difference sis.
I couldn’t help but feel like a vain monster. I was already battling my own thoughts and fears, unlike most moms, I’ve sadly experienced my little one going through a lot! Was I now being a part of her potential additional pain? What if her piercing gets infected. What if she develops a keloid?
My mind was going a million miles per hour and I had no idea how to stop it. Until I did.
Alína’s ears were pierced after the convo the lady and I had, there was nothing I could do at that point. One of the things I have intentionally reminded myself to practice is mindfulness and being present in the present. If I have made a decision that has already and the deed is done. Whether it was a mistake or an intentional decision that didn’t have a favourable outcome, I am teaching myself to live in the here and now because that is the only thing I can control.
Long story short. The lady didn’t call me a vain monster and I didn’t threaten anyone to get the hell out of my face, but, people really were walking by and staring when she was crying. And an old lady really did ask if Alína was old enough to pierce her ears, I just couldn’t hear anything else she was said over Alína crying.
Moral of the story, 6 months postpartum is messing with my brain and can cause me to feel and hear stuff I wouldn’t usually hear or feel but I don’t care because I am living in the present and no longer worried about the things I can’t control. Surely I get an A+ for that right?
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